Wholeness: Entire, Sound, Complete, Total or Intact.
How often do we find ourselves moving toward being in a period of Wholeness?
A hole can be a void or it may hold within it limitless possibilities. If you look closely maybe you will recognize that life is creating an opening for you.
If you were to quiet your mind for a few moments what would you discover about where you are in that very moment? Is there something going on internally that you are either waiting for the “right” moment to dissect, examine and tend to or do you find yourself putting things off for another time? Do you “a-VOID” facing what you know deep within yourself may be your true path? Does the unknown hold power over you and the decisions you make?
How willing are you to dig deep and begin removing the armor and masks you have become so comfortable wearing? In wearing these “masks,” (as we all sometimes do…) have you convinced yourself that this is who you have become? Are you ready to own all that you are, and wear your truth for all to see, feel and know?
If I asked, “Who are you?” How would you respond?
Would you tell me you’re a butcher, baker or candlestick maker? Would you say you’re a daughter, son, employee or frustrated boss?
Would you tell me about your day and all you have accomplished, perhaps leaving out any struggles or hurts you may have experienced or even caused along the way?
I am curious, would our conversation be a “give and take,” exchange – or be mostly one-sided?
I want to know your inner truths. The ones that haunt you at night, or maybe even during the day. I want to know about the moments where you were unsure about something, yet moved forward and were willing to risk it all anyway.
Do you think you can open-up about your truth to me, …or even to yourself?
Do you view your days as a “to-do” list, checking each box as tasks are completed, or do you just let the day unfold as it may; knowing it will lead you toward your destination?
Do your actions and words truly align? Are you willing to put up a mirror to your actions and a microphone to your words to see if they are edited depending on who may be watching or listening in that moment?
When was the last time you allowed your own true, raw emotions to erupt like a volcano for others to see or feel – knowing you were safe and free from judgement in a place where fear did not reside?
Why do you do what you do? What is the motivation to why you chose the career path you chose? Why do you want to work with the people you work with (or not work with such people)?
What is the driving force behind the things you do? Are you knowing the answers to these questions within your own mind but when asked by a stranger have a rehearsed response? Can you be true to yourself at the “drop of a dime?” (Are you…?)
Does your motivation lie in being in service to others, in making a lot of money, in having personal freedom — or perhaps all of the above? When you say you want to be in service do you mean to yourself or to others? Are there conditions that apply to these things you want?
For example: I want to be of service to others but only during my day job. Or, I want to make a lot of money even if I really do not like what it is I am doing. I do what I do because that’s where the money is. I will do whatever it takes to make enough so I can do whatever I want whenever I want.
No judgement — just truth. Take off your mask and be authentically you.
If you hate what you do or where you are what is stopping you from looking at other options that may include doing something you absolutely feel drawn to and love?
Something that inspires you to get up in the morning and not just because of the paycheck you will receive…
Can’t you do something that allows you to have the best of all worlds; which causes you to want to have that feeling in all areas of your life. Be in a place within yourself that does not require validation from others to “justify” who we are and why we do what we do.
Recently, life has gifted me the opportunity to look inside of my hole and recognize the possibilities that lie within it. I have always known what my dream life would be and have dabbled in and out of experiencing it throughout my years.
I get to stop “toe-dipping” and testing the waters but rather dive right in, confident in who I truly am and finally being “okay” with all it is that makes me, ME…!
I know that people will always express their opinions wanting to offer support; which is always welcomed. The difference now is that I am clear in knowing when these opinions are being offered from a place that is truly supportive of me or just a projection of other people’s fears.
Just being aware of this is all I need to understand what truly matters and allow the rest to fall where it may.
“It’s always perfect.”
We are all on our own paths to Wholeness. Everyone’s journey is unique to them. Watch, learn, find your truth and share it with the world!
The world will be a better place for it and so will you.
Until Next Time,
Over this past week I came across a wonderful documentary entitled, “Embrace,” Body Image Activist Taryn Brumfitt’s visual crusade as she explores the global issues of body loathing; inspiring us to change the way we feel about ourselves.
I immediately saw myself in many of these stories, having endured many years of a love/hate relationship with my own body.
My thighs always touched! When I was 13 years old my body was “curvy” unlike most of my friends.
I was always comparing myself to other girls my age. I was either exercising like a crazy person or starving myself in hopes that I would be thin and look good.
I have had brief moments of acceptance and or discipline.
I have a strained relationship with food that I continue to work through daily. There is not a lot of food I like which makes eating an ongoing struggle.
I often hear what I should and should not be eating, what a woman with my physique should or should not wear and how carrying a little extra weight is frowned upon.
I can remember a few years ago removing a scale from my home, freeing myself from my own self judgement based upon a number. Being a woman who lived over a decade as a closet bulimic I was torturing myself inside and out; instead of embracing my body with love and appreciation.
Watching “Embrace” ignited a firestorm within me. I sat down and had a long heart to heart conversation with myself; with my body. I apologized to my organs, blood vessels, muscles, tendons, bones and brain for the physical, mental and verbal abuse I had put it through for all those years.
I say often when we shine we give others permission to do the same. So, if I am silently battling this amazing vehicle which I have been given the privilege of traveling through this life in (my own body); then am I giving others permission to do the same???
This is not the vibration I wish to share with the world. So, being the conscious soul that I am and considering the heart-to-heart discussion I had with myself; I have decided to forgive “me” for all the self-abuse and to stop judging myself based upon others’ opinions of what I should or should not look like!
I understand this may take some time after many years of negative conditioning, but with conscious awareness and knowing my own truth I will remain true to the promise I made to myself.
It’s time I stand in a space of recognition and acceptance toward myself, which then gives others permission to do the same!
Until next time,
Embracing this wonderful vehicle of mine in a whole new light.
Blessed Summer Solstice!
These past few weeks have been an opportunity to take a step back and look closely like an outsider looking in, opportunities to notice the hidden gems beneath the rocks.
It is said that life is not happening to us, it is only responding to us.
Basically, showing us that how we live each day is always a choice.
Each day no matter how cloudy, sunny, stressful or joyous is always a gift.
Every passing day offers us the chance to be a better person. Each passing day offers us a chance to see the sun rise and set, discover things about ourselves we had not discovered yet. Each moment of each day offers us an opportunity to have our actions show others how we really feel about ourselves and those whom we come in contact with.
When our actions and words align our inner light shines and gives others permission to do the same.
I watched a movie the other day called, “Before I Fall”. It is a “Groundhog’s Day” themed movie, in which Samantha is offered an opportunity to see how her actions and words affect those around her and she gets to choose how she wants to be remembered.
We too have the chance to take a closer look at what we give our energy to, or things we choose to just go along with so as not to rock the boat. A chance to find the things that make our heart shine and fill us with gratitude day in and day out. Our problem is we always think we have time.
Unlike Samantha in “Before I Fall,” we don’t receive a warning or “groundhog’s day” moment each morning at the same hour, having the same exact day re-starting itself over and over to cue us to say, Let’s try this again!” But, we do have a choice to embrace each day with courage to create the life we want and explore all the possibilities life has in store for us.
Sometimes the world seems against us and our journey may leave a scar. These can be lessons of how we can choose to live out each and every day. Every minute we are gifted another chance to vibrate higher, to remember who we are and how we can make a difference in our lives and the lives of those around us.
Tomorrow is never promised.
Stop waiting for the right moment in time because the moment you are waiting for may be the moment you are in. Take the chance. Love. Laugh. Explore! Discover your inner happiness.
The world needs your light.
Until next time,
Grateful for my husband Ralph who ignites my inner flame and encourages me to shine brightly.
These past few weeks have been silent lessons in surrendering and trusting the process.
I feel this year has been moving so quickly as if I am being carried along on a raging river traveling toward an unknown destination. It takes me through every twist and turn, leaving me beaten and bruised from smashing up against the riverbank and hidden rocks; never letting me forget the path I am on.
Then all the sudden and without any warning, a calm will take over and the river moves more slowly, more gracefully. It allows me to catch my breath, take in the sunlight and smell the scent of the flowers.
For this brief moment, I forget the river still has a purpose. Soon, the flow picks up again and we move along greeting every twist and turn of uncharted territory reminding me that all I can do is surrender and just trust the process (basically, just try to hang on and enjoy the ride)!
I know everything happens for a reason and when things seem uncertain or unclear in the present moment, in time all answers will be revealed.
This river and I have become old friends. I have ridden along with her currents and rapids before. You would think by now I know how to ride her with courage and grace? I am fully aware that in any moment she may begin to pick up speed and once again test my strength by thrashing me up against the rocks; forcing me to let go of my tight hold on occasional fear and uncertainty.
Somewhere along this journey with my eyes wide open, I took a deep breath and released my tight grip, giving myself permission to trust the process. I gently surrendered to the powerful current (and let go of needing to know all the answers).
I stand here today waiting to catch another ride on the river, knowing next time I will be wiser and stronger; trusting in the unknown that lies ahead.
Until next time,
Keep on glistening for your journey is not over yet.
Resting upon the rocks…
Lately I’ve noticed that most of the information I’ve been reading or listening to has to do with our daily habits. This caused me to take a closer look at my own habits; noticing which ones are helping me move forward and which ones are keeping me stagnant?
With this I decided to share some of the healthy habits I have incorporated into my life.
Stop obsessing over the things you have no control over.
As Buddha said, “…You only lose that which you cling to.” When I realize I’m in a state of worry or obsessing over something out of my control (and being a recovering control freak), I totally get how difficult it can be to follow this advice! I center myself and remember the two mantras I try to live by, “It’s Always Perfect,” and “Delays work in my favor…” I also allow myself to have a 30-minute-or-less obsessive/worry session. Giving myself permission to have this “pity party” allows me to talk myself in and out of my wheel and come to a place of surrender. Sometimes we need to be open to the idea that what we want and what we may get could be two very different things.
Write in a journal for five minutes every day!
Writing can help you get centered and offers the opportunity to get really clear on what it is you desire deep down inside. It is also a spectacular outlet for releasing frustrations within a particular situation; or person. Anyone who knows me understands I’m a paper-and-pen fanatic. I love to journal, write or doodle whenever I am in flux or needing to release what is exploding in my brain.
For at least one hour a day… “turn off the news channels!” on TV, internet and/or radio.
Escaping all the negative conversations and violence for at LEAST one hour a day can add peace to your heart and soul! Unplugging gives us a chance to appreciate what is going on in the moment without being distracted.
I am personally still working on this one. A restful night’s sleep is truly one of my goals these days. Sleeping seven hours a night is said to increase memory, lower stress levels, spur creativity as well as strengthen our immune systems.
Say “NO!” to people and obligations that do not really interest you.
You will find this will allow you more time to focus on things you want to do. There are only 24 hours in a day, why not make more of them available to yourself? This can also give you more confidence. Saying “no” to others can often amount to saying “yes” to yourself. This is a back-handed “I love you” to the most important person in your life. Take it as a compliment and feel good about it. And, last but not least, you’ll respect yourself more (and so will others).
So, this Wake-Up Wednesday I hope you get the opportunity to look closely at your habits, then decide which ones are keepers and which ones can take a hike.
Until next time,
Journaling with gratitude and ideas,
Peace and Blue Jeans
As a sensitive I am all too aware of my tendency to take on other people’s emotions.
When I’m in a crowded environment like New York City, or at an event with many people chatting and engaging each other; if I had not prepared myself for these positive and/or negative energies I will immediately notice their affect on me.
Have you ever noticed that laughter is contagious?
When you are surrounded by people in a really good mood it is hard to be upset. Similarly, when you are surrounded by others who are frustrated or angry you can feel your own energy begin to drain (…ever walk into a room and feel as if you could “…cut the tension with a knife”)?
I have been hearing from a lot of people lately how they are becoming more sensitive to their surroundings, or just seem to be noticing it more within themselves.
Here are a few things that I do to prepare myself for the unknown:
- If I suddenly feel my mood quickly shifting (and not in a good direction) I quietly ask myself, “Is this mine?” I have found if is not “mine,” the energy shifts back to balance fairly quickly.
- Pay attention to people and places that leave you feeling drained or “heavy.” If you can limit your time with them (or avoid them) then do that.
- Align your energy by concentrating on your breathing. Get present in the moment and if you are outside, find a tree to lean against. This allows the Earth energy to infuse with your body and will help to ground you, releasing energies that are not serving you.
- Picture your entire body in a purple, pink or golden colored bubble (think of The Good Witch of the North Glinda’s bubble in the Wizard of OZ). Or imagine yourself in a mirrored bubble reflecting back anything that does not serve you; allowing in only positive energy.
- Surround yourself with positive people that lift your mood. Watch a funny movie or listen to music that makes you smile and feel joyful. Think of someone or something you love. Love vibrates at a much higher level than anger or frustration.
Most of all always be kind to yourself. You know what feels good and what doesn’t. We may not always have a choice to where we must go and with whom; but we always have a choice on how we deal with the situation.
Until next time,
Breathing deeply in my pink bubble!
In honor of the movement’s political history, which dates all the way back to 1970, here are some suggestions that promote a little extra earth-loving care as well as a renewed sense of connection to this beautiful place we call home. Even though Earth Day should be every day, I hope you join in with me and millions of people across the globe on April 22nd to do at least one thing that will make our planet a better place to live.
Why not go and take a Hike.
Go for a walk along the ocean or lake.
How about getting involved with a local
Plant a tree.
Do a Home Energy Audit check.
Clean Out Your Closets and Donate to a Charity.
Instead of driving walk or ride a bicycle.
Pick up the trash instead of walking over it.
Earth Day is observed around the world on April 22. The first Earth Day was celebrated on April 22, 1970, and is considered the birth of the modern environmental movement. Before 1970, the health of the environment was not a common concern, even as industry poured chemicals and smoke into the air. In 1962, Rachel Carson, an ecologist from Pennsylvania, published a book called Silent Spring. The book became a best seller and raised public awareness of environmental concerns.
After the 1969 oil spill in Santa Barbara, Calif., Gaylord Nelson, a U.S. senator for Wisconsin, organized a nationwide demonstration against the pollution and the deterioration of the environment. The protest was held on April 22, 1970. Approximately twenty million Americans joined the demonstration in support of a healthier and more sustainable treatment of the environment.
Happy Earth Day
It’s earth day…hug a tree. Let your little ones play outside in the dirt…like we used to when we were growing up. Happy earth day! Remember, we don’t inherit the planet from our parents, we borrow it from our children.
Until next time,
Enjoying the outdoors and honoring Mother Earth!
Peace and Blue Jeans,
It’s all fun and games, …until Mercury goes retrograde!
(At least that’s what we’ve been lead to believe.)
Some of you may be reading this and thinking, “Oh no!” Others may be saying, “What is Mercury in retrograde?”
One of our beloved planets, Mercury is known as the planet that rules all things regarding communication including listening, speaking, learning, reading, editing, researching, selling and buying. It rules all formal contracts and agreements as well as important documents, books, manuscripts, term papers, contracts and so forth. Mercury has been known as a trickster that likes to complicate our lives when it comes to travel and/or issues concerning electronic devices (our computers, cellphones, tablets, etc.)
Mercury will be in retrograde this April 9th through May 3rd. It goes retrograde a few times a year, for three weeks at a time. Even though all the planets eventually move into retrograde (that is, when they seemingly shift into orbital “reverse” when viewed from Earth’s night sky) Mercury’s retrograde seems to have greater impact on people than the other planets.
When a planet is retrograde, astrologically speaking it’s as if in a sleeping state. So, while Mercury prepares to take a “nap” I thought I would share a few tips that might assist you on the cosmic dance floor with our Sun’s closest and possibly most “influential” neighbor!
So, put on your Dancing Shoes — for soon; we will truly be dancing among the stars (…knowingly or not)!
With Mercury retrograde it gives us the opportunity to stop, look and listen. This can be a great time to tie up loose ends, clear up communication breakdowns and backup any data you deem important. It is NOT particularly the best time to purchase Big Ticket items! If you must, just remember to check, double-check then go ahead and triple-check all the paperwork! Make sure and read the small print on contracts. Act like a 5-year-old and ask lots of questions! You know, just like the child who responds “Why?” to every question.
It’s also a wonderful time to return to projects you may have “placed on the shelf.” Go back and review all paperwork you completed before sending it off. Get together with old friends, have fun and reminisce. Find some time to reorganize your files, or even invite friends over for an impromptu fashion show while thinning out your closets!
It is often said those born under a Mercury retrograde have a philosophical and reflective nature which helps them think through complex concepts quite creatively.
Some crystals that can support you during Mercury retrograde are:
- Blue Lace Agate: to aid in expressing ourselves clearly.
- Flourite: can help with mental focus.
- Hematite: grounding and protection.
- Smokey Quartz: chase away bad moods.
In honor of this Mercury retrograde, I created an enchanted flower essence to vibrationally support us through this phase:
“Dancing with the Stars!”
- Rock water: flexibility, go with the flow
- Cosmos: verbal expression. Speaking with calm clear voice
- Fireweed: recreate, reconstruct
- Black Tourmaline: grounding and protection
- Cerato: pause and go within
- Holly: softens perception.
Here’s to reflecting on all that we have accomplished as well as forgiven, in order to move forward and heal.
Remember to go with the flow.
Until next time,
Being open to Awesomeness…
Peace and Blue Jeans,
If you’re interested in purchasing the “Dancing with the Stars!” enchanted flower essence directly from me — email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Or, just visit my website: www.CynthiaFarina.com
Thank you xxx
Time, Death and Love
“They say that love is pain; so let’s hurt tonight. I won’t walk away; I won’t roll my eyes.”
We all have the blessings of receiving the gifts of Time, Death and Love. At one time or another, each of these powerful forces have crossed our paths.
How often do we really think about Time? Do you believe time is linear? Do you only think about time when something rocks you to your very core (or “hits too close to home”)? Do you make sure you are continuously task-oriented so as not to waste time; or try to stretch your time out hoping to have it last longer?
Has time deceived you by moving too slowly or perhaps too quickly, leaving you feeling that it may only be an illusion?
What about Death? Do you blame death for taking something or someone away from you? Have you silently thanked death for ending something that had been just too painful to endure? Death is complicated; it holds all our emotions in its grasp.
Ah, …and Love — the trickiest of them all! Love illuminates all the choices we make. It decides whether we withhold, or fully disclose ourselves. Love lives in all things; beauty, sadness, memories, hope, fear, the past, present and future of every decision we make.
Every word we speak, think or feel is governed by it.
This Wake-up Wednesday I compel you to write personalized letters to Time, Death and Love. Let them help you to remember. Embrace all the unique gifts they offer. Be sure to notice the collateral beauty.
As we approach Spring and move toward the new moon in Aries, let us pay attention to nature as she gracefully walks us through Time, Death and Love. Think about new beginnings, happiness and joy as you enjoy the longer days, spring flowers and all the beauty that life has to hold.
Until next time,
I’ll be writing my personal letters to Time, Death and Love!
Peace and Blue Jeans,
“Life meets you where you honor yourself…”